Specialists say child care is an integrative responsibility for both family and community institutions

Abu Dhabi: Psychological and pedagogical specialists have collectively stressed the importance of unifying both family and civil society institutions’ efforts to protect children, by fulfilling their basic needs and surrounding them with security and safety, acquainting them with their friends and communicating with schools, and monitoring their nannies closely when they leave they are alone with kinds, and educating mothers on how to handle their children and care for them.

They said that the absence of the role of the family, their high-handedness and lack of monitoring, creates a child with vindictive tendencies and no regard for the law. They see that a parent’s lenient upbringing can cause the child to be careless and follow friends who are a bad influence. Overindulgence or excessive cruelty may make the child careless and be the cause of not developing social skills within their peer groups.

They considered the efforts of Abu Dhabi Police in encouraging awareness in families and civil society associations to be a step that helps to plant the seeds of good behavior in young people, so that they follow the right path and stay away from bad company.

They confirmed the integrative role that starts with the household and ends with the different state institutions. On the other hand, Brigadier Najim Abdullah Al Hosani, Director of the Social Support Centers Department of Abu Dhabi Police, says: “The world is witnessing fast changes in the areas of education, civilization and technology. Both individuals and associations are responsible of keeping up with these changes”. He added: “The UAE is a pioneer and a leader in providing support to all segments of society to help individuals to live in a family-oriented, interconnected environment and a healthy social atmosphere, based on compassion, harmony and mercy, in a way that provides the community with positive values that help to protect it and keep it away from delinquency, and drifting towards crime.”

He said that the conference that was organized by Abu Dhabi Police recently under the slogan “The Family Prevention and Protection”, embodies its role and care in motherhood and childhood, as they are considered to be some of the key pillars of society. He said that supporting them is the best investment that brings guaranteed benefits to individuals and society and provides the highest standards of security and protection for them.

A healthy environment Dr. Maha Ahmed Abdel Halim, a psychologist, spoke about the role of the family in child protection and doing so by fulfilling their basic needs, like making them feel safe and secure, which provides a healthy environment that children can use to protect themselves and to know their rights and obligations. She added that when the roles are integrated, the child can gain new skills that support their position and help to protect them from bad behavior that will hold them accountable.

She attributed the reasons that lead children into crime to the lack of the integrated role of the family, lack of supervision and follow up, lack of stimulation with reward and punishment for the child, and the diversity of upbringing methods. She believes that a dominant family will raise a vindictive child, that does not abide by the laws, while a lenient family can raise a careless child, which makes it easier for them to associate with bad company, and fall into crime.

Educational Awareness Milan Sharif, the legal researcher from the Law Respect Culture Bureau at the General Secretariat of the Office of H.H Deputy Prime Minister and Minister of Interior, discussed the importance of parents’ educational awareness, and the methods of handling the child at different ages, through specific scientific guidelines. She pointed to the importance of preparing mothers for this task beforehand, along with the integrated role of civil society institutions to provide awareness programs for the mothers whom are still handling their children by instinct, and through goodwill are still subjected to fatal errors. Scientific education reduces the mother’s effort significantly, and provides a positive outcome to the child’s behavior.

She said that the mother in most cases cannot punish a child in the early stages due to the lack of cognitive abilities that cause children to develop habits that could lead them to crime, like being dishonest and violent. By spoiling the child excessively or being cruel to it, the child will suffer from under-developed social intelligence skills. She pointed out that when a child becomes anti-social with no respect for laws or customs, is a very dangerous stage that may lead the child to crime that can harm society. This can happen in the absence of father figure, who thinks that his role is only financial, forgetting his duties in forming the child’s conscious.

Meanwhile, Alaa Qeshta, a teacher, said that the educational and emotional communication between school and home, especially between a teacher and a student, nurtures morals and educational values. She noted that both family and schools should ensure proper nutrition because this affects the child’s behavior.

Sohaila Samhan, an education specialist, stressed the importance of constant parental supervision on children, and getting to know all their friends and people who deal with them directly. She emphasized the importance of constant communication between parents and schools, especially because most of children’s problems occur in school. The child may be subjected to persecution or abuse by his friends while the parents are unaware. They may also be leaving the task of educating to the nanny, where the child will be subjected to a different culture, or will be abused because the nanny is not well trained and is not capable of taking care of the child.

She said that the child should be aware of how to react during certain situations, and should also be aware of boundaries and limits, which include not going off with strangers, notifying their parents about their whereabouts. If the child is left with a nanny, they should be monitored closely, while keeping a close eye on any changes that may occur in the child.